James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The urgent request of a righteous person is very powerful in its effect.
The word for “sins” in this verse is often used in the context of being offended by someone or when one of us offends another person. It literally means “to fall beside.”
This verse bothered me for a long time! It seemed very unhealthy for people to stand up and confess whatever sins they have been committing. This could lead to a lot of hurt, confusion, misunderstanding, and mistrust. My thoughts often wander all over the place. If I’m confessing publicly every wrong thought, then what a mess I’d make!
But there is clear teaching in Scripture when one of us offends another person. As soon as we know we have offended another person, we are to go make it right. Ask forgiveness for the offense. Humble ourselves. Seek to reconcile with that person.
I’m not a psychologist, but it is obvious that holding in bitterness and unforgiveness is unhealthy physically, emotionally and especially spiritually for the persons involved, both the offended and the offender.
Oh Father, make me a forgiving person. Father, You have forgiven me of millions of offenses by your extravagant grace through the sacrifice of Your Son Jesus. Help me to forgive just one offense against me. Help me to humble myself when I offend someone else and seek to make it right with them.